Slim Thug’s Opinion on Black Women |
“Most single Black women feel like they don’t want to settle for less. Their standards are too high right now. They have to understand that successful Black men are kind of extinct.”
“My girl is Black and White. I guess the half White in her is where she still cooks and do all the shit that I say, so we make it. She just takes care of me and I like that. She don’t be begging and I don’t gotta buy her all this crazy ass shit. And she’s a smart girl too.”
“White women treat they man like a king and Black women feel like they ain’t gotta do that shit. Black women need to stand by their man more. Don’t always put the pressure of if I’m fucking with you, you gotta buy me this and that. Black men are the ones that motherfuckers need [but] I think a lot of them need to step it up too.” (Source)
Slim Thug, who is he again?! Oh, yes he’s a rapper– or can he still carry that title? When was the last time anything he recorded played on the radio? Okay, when was it played outside of Houston! His music might still be played, but I haven’t heard anything from him or with him since Beyonce’s “Check Up on It.” I must be the lone blogger, and single girl who has had it with the comments, anecdotes, and assumptions on the dating lives of single black women. Surprisingly the majority of the noise and clamor is not coming from single, black women themselves. We instead are placed in a test tube of sorts–no, a pinata–and are being beaten repeatedly by the media, and anyone trying to appear as if they are making some grand educated hypothesis on the lives of unmarried black women.
Our standards are too high they say, and we should lower them. Apparently having a degree and wanting someone somewhat comparable to you education-wise or accomplishment-wise is out of the question. How dare we as black women have standards, and then expect men to meet those standards. Instead we should settle for the Slim Thugs of the world.
Let me pause for a minute. Does Slim Thug consider himself a successful black man? While I take nothing away from this musical success (okay, that was a lavish description) in no way would I group Slim Thug in the category of successful black men that are widely coveted by single, successful black women. Though I do agree at times we as women get carried away in our lists when it comes to what we look for in a mate, I think where the basics are concerned we hit the mark.
A successful black man may not necessarily be a college graduate, but one thing he definitely isn’t is Slim Thug. To address Mr. Thug’s comment about how the “half White in [his girlfriend] is where she still cooks and do all the shit.” Yes, because white women have been known since the dawn of time to keep a house and cook three meals a day for her husband. The good old caucasian blood will have your woman acting right every time! While black women complain too much, and we don’t want to cook, or do what a man says. Are you following me? It makes no sense!
“She don’t be begging and…she’s a smart girl too.”
My first question to Slim Thug is, what does your half white (because apparently she does not warrant a name, or any other defining characteristics by which he could have referred to her), again, what does she do for a living? Does this non-begging, grateful, obedient, homemaker interracial girl have a job or career to speak of? Does her obedience stem from her desire to capitalize on the little money you have, which indeed you are likely not investing, saving, or multiplying? You see, when we make comparisons I would like to know what I am being compared to. Am I, a college-educated black woman with a budding career who at times has put in 200+ hours a month at the office, being compared to someone as equally career driven? That makes a difference to me. It’s not that our standards are too high, it’s that we want a man we can bring into certain professional situations who will not say, pardon my french, dumb shit like this!
“White women treat they man like a king and Black women feel like they ain’t gotta do that shit.”
My problem with his entire statement is not that he wants a woman to treat him like a king. What man doesn’t? As women we want to treat you as a king, but we want you to lead and we’ll follow. The issue is if you have no direction, we are not going to follow you. Also, if you are a tyrant king, we will not allow you reign for very long.
Slim Thug has a very twisted view of single black women. For him to make such grotesque statements about not only black women, but to devalue his current girlfriend and pigeonhole her as nothing more than a subjective “half-white” woman, catering to his every whim, that is an injustice. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, and I am entitled to pointing out when that opinion is ignorant and showcases why we as black women have standards to begin with. I would like to believe once Slim Thug stops playing dress-up with his “bling-bling” chains, cornrows, lifts his pants to his waist, and removes his grill maybe he will be able to better articulate his opinion on the dating lives of single, black women.
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